It can be confusing when a girl comes back after rejecting you, whether it’s been a few days or even a few years.
No matter how surprising it is, if you’re interested in her this might be the moment you’ve been waiting for!
Also, you shouldn’t always assume that she rejected you because she doesn’t like you, there are lots of potential reasons.
For example, here are 10 reasons why a girl who rejected you might come back and show interest in you again:
10 Reasons Why A Girl Might Come Back After Rejecting You
1. She Was in A Relationship at The Time
If a girl rejects you but then comes back around, it could be because she was already in a relationship when you first expressed interest.
Even if you thought she was single and she didn’t say anything about having a boyfriend, it doesn’t mean it wasn’t the case – some girls don’t want to reveal things about their personal life.
It’s possible that she’s now single and ready to date, which means your timing might be perfect.
There’s also a chance that she wasn’t over her last relationship and needed some time to heal before she could move on.
Related – What to do when a guy has too much pride to come back.
2. She Had the Hots for Someone Else at The Time
Just like in the previous point, a girl might have been interested in someone else when you first expressed interest.
It’s possible that she was stringing you along in case things didn’t work out with the other guy, but now that they’re over she wants to give things a try with you.
Or, if she flat out rejected you it would have been because she didn’t want to ruin her chances with that other guy.
As time has passed, I’m sure she either didn’t get with that guy or she’s over him now if she’s showing interest in you.
3. She Was Scared of Saying ‘yes’
It’s not uncommon for girls to be scared of saying ‘yes’ when they’re first asked out by someone.
This is usually because they feel like they’re put on the spot, or they might have been worried about moving too fast if you weren’t friends.
It could also be that she was worried about what other people would think if she said ‘yes’ to a date.
Over time she’s had time to think about it and it sounds like she’s now more comfortable with the idea of going out with you.
4. She Didn’t Think You Were Being Serious
A lot of the time when guys ask girls out, they don’t actually seem that serious.
It might have just been a casual question with no real intention behind it, or you might not have shown that you were actually interested in her.
Girls can pick up on these things, and if she didn’t think you were being serious then she probably rejected you.
However, if she’s come back around it means that she’s now realized you were actually interested and she wants to give you a shot.
5. She Didn’t Realize You Were Actually Trying to Ask Her Out
This is similar to the previous point, but in this case, she didn’t realize you were asking her out on a date.
She might have thought you were just trying to be friends, or maybe you didn’t make it clear that you wanted to go out with her alone.
Can you remember what you said and how you said it?
Sometimes wires get crossed, it happens. Time resolves a lot of communication issues and it sounds like she’s either realized you were interested or wants to ask you out.
6. She Thought You Would Chase Her Harder
A lot of girls like the idea of a guy chasing them harder and feel like if they don’t say yes right away, you’ll put in more effort and show them how much you really want them.
She might have thought you would put up more of a fight for her or try to convince her why she should say ‘yes’ and was disappointed when you didn’t!
Now it sounds like she’s willing to put in some effort chasing you, how the tables have turned!
7. It Was the Wrong Time in Her Life
There’s a chance that when you asked her out, it just wasn’t the right time in her life.
Maybe she was dealing with some personal issues, or she had just come out of a relationship and needed some time to be single.
It could also be that she was about to start college or a new job and didn’t want to deal with the complications of dating.
Whatever the case, it sounds like she’s in a better place now and is ready to date again.
8. She Has Seen You’re Doing Well Now and Wants a Piece
If you’ve been doing well since she rejected you, she might have come back around because she wants a piece of your success.
She might have seen you post on social media about your new job or the promotion you just got, or can see you’re clearly doing well.
Yes, this is a bit superficial, but I’m not going to tell you how to handle that, that’s up to you.
It’s not always a negative thing, maybe you were not coming across as confident when she rejected you, that’s a huge turn-off for most girls.
9. Feelings Change Over Time
The most likely reason she’s come back around is that her feelings have changed since she rejected you.
At the time, she might not have been interested in you or didn’t see you as a potential boyfriend for whatever reason.
However, over time her feelings could have changed and now she wants to give it a shot.
This is actually a really good thing in most instances as it means she’s had time to think about you and get a better grip on her feelings.
10. She Always Regretted Turning You Down
The final reason she might have come back around is that she always regretted turning you down in the first place.
She might have thought about what could have been, or maybe she just realized that you were a really great guy and she made a mistake.
Whatever the case, if she’s come back it means she’s able to swallow her pride or admit she made a mistake, which is a big deal for a lot of people.
Related – 11 Signs a Guy Knows He Messed Up (+ Regrets What He Did!)
Can a Girl Change Her Mind After Rejecting?
So, if you’re wondering if a girl can change her mind after rejecting you, the answer is yes, of course!
It’s always possible, but it really depends on the situation and why she rejected you in the first place.
If she came back around it could mean that she realized she made a mistake, or her feelings have changed.
The only way you’re going to find out exactly why she’s changed her mind is by asking her, and now is the perfect time if she’s interested in you!
Should I Still Talk to Her After Rejection?
If you’re wondering if you should still talk to a girl after she rejects you, the answer is yes!
It’s always a good idea to stay on friendly terms with someone you’re interested in, even if they don’t feel the same way.
You never know what could happen down the road, so it’s best to keep your options open.
Moreover, if she’s come back around it means she’s interested in talking to you again, so take advantage of the opportunity!
How Long Does It Take a Girl to Realize She Messed up Rejecting You?
There is no set answer for how long it takes for a girl to realize she regrets rejecting a guy, but it’s usually sooner rather than later.
Those romantic stories about women calling their childhood crush after thinking about them for years or decades are few and far between!
It usually takes just a few days or weeks for a girl – or a guy – to realize they are missing out on the person they rejected.
Whether they do something about it or not is another story!
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Phil lives in England, UK, and has around 20 years experience as a professional life, career and executive coach. He started this blog to help others find and define their own self development journey. Blogging about a wide range of topics to help facilitate a better future.